Why does God allow abandonment?
When I mention God, I’m speaking from a spiritual perspective, not a religious one. My journey over the last 11 years led me to shift my understanding of a higher power—from “the universe” to “God.” Whether you see this force as God, the universe, or something else, it’s clear that life’s challenges can lead to personal growth. For some, the word “God” may be uncomfortable or triggering, especially for those with religious trauma, so I want to acknowledge that I am sharing from my own spiritual experience, not a religious doctrine.
If you’re asking, “Why do people keep abandoning me physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually?” or feeling like people don’t meet you where you are, there’s often a deeper reason. It’s a painful truth, but one of the most powerful lessons we can learn as humans.
Humans are meant to connect. Our bodies thrive in groups, our minds grow through mental stimulation, and emotionally, we need attachments. Sharing similar values—whether spiritual, moral, or emotional—only strengthens those bonds.
At different stages in life, abandonment may come from romantic relationships, family, friends, or even in your career. Often, it’s because others are making decisions out of fear, not love, and sometimes, you are no longer in alignment with a person or situation. While it can feel deeply personal, these experiences are often orchestrated to bring up your abandonment wounds so they can heal. Whether you believe in a higher power guiding this or not, these moments offer an opportunity to heal and trust yourself more deeply. Life places people in our path to teach us about what we want or don’t want in our lives, and though it’s painful, it’s a powerful way to grow. (Trust me, even as I type this, I get frustrated thinking, “Why can’t humans learn it differently?” Haha! 🤣)
This can lead you to wonder, “Why am I not loved or accepted for who I am?” That’s a valid question, but focusing too much on how others see you can make you lose your voice and start doubting yourself.
For people with deep abandonment issues, learning to love themselves is a long process. Their sense of security and safety is often fragile and needs to be rebuilt. I can relate to this personally, as I’ve been on my own healing journey and have seen the positive results firsthand. Having the right tools and actions is essential for healing. The journey requires letting go of control and allowing more compassion for yourself. When you trust the process, you may be amazed at what life (or God, or the universe) has in store for you.
You might find a partner, have children, or land your dream job and still feel lonely if you rely on others to make you feel whole. True healing comes from within. Trusting yourself, even when others don’t understand, is key. People view you through their own lenses, and they aren’t living your experience. Healing from abandonment starts by connecting with yourself—mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
Tools like cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), somatic therapy, EMDR, and chakra healing (specifically with the solar plexus, sacral, and root chakras) can help you feel grounded and present. The key to overcoming abandonment is recognizing that your worth doesn’t depend on external validation—you are whole just as you are.
If you’re feeling abandoned right now, I’m sending you a big, warm hug. This is a tough path to be on, but I believe in your ability to heal and grow through it. Trust the process, and know that you’ve got this! 💛
Love you 😘
Alex
Reiki Master & High Priestess
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